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Book Review: Not That Kind of Girl by Lena Duhnam

 I am happy to say that I can easily name my favorite book of the year thus far!

I bring you:


Not That Kind of Girl, A Young Woman Tells of What She's "Learned" 
By Lena Duhnman



First of all, I think it's safe to say that we would all need to put "learned" in quote marks when telling others our life lessons. Because how do we really know if we have fully learned, comprehended and appreciated all of our life experiences? In the whole scheme of my 28 years, my life lessons are a spec of what is to come, I am sure. (Which is scary because just considering reliving for the sake of retelling them all for you gives me heart palpitations) 

If you don't already know, Lena Dunham is a  actress, screenwriter, producer, and director. She's the star actress and creator of the HBO show, Girls, which has a bazillon awards under its belt. Do yourself a favor and binge watch it, starting yesterday. This is Lena's memoir about her adolescence and I can only hope she'll write more, considering she's still in her 20s. 

Not That Kind of Girl paints a picture of the path that probably led Lena to most of the crazy ass scenarios that the characters on Girls find themselves in (cocaine addiction, low self-esteem, OCD, co-dependent relationships)  you know, the usual. 

So basically, Lena Dunham and I are soul sisters, cut from the same cloth. I nodded along with her as she mused about her parents, her inability to mix in with the crowd and her need to act out in spite of self. I related to everything. Our insecurities mirror each other. Apart from her cocaine experimentations- we were pretty much on the same wave length, although my addiction to cheap wine is probably just as bad. 

Lena writes about her life via short snip bits of summer camp nightmares, cringe worthy sexual encounters, awkward parenting moments, identity crisis and anything that falls into the category of a young woman in the 2000s trying to figure what the hell is going on. Like I said, this book could have probably been my own recollections, with a few weird stepdads and a sheltered midwest upbringing thrown into the mix. 

One of the most powerful messages came at the end of the book where Lena muses about finally finding an adult relationship that is built on a strong foundation of unconditional love and mutual respect... 


She spoke to the young woman in all of us about relationships with other women.... 


And about our relationship with our inner self...


And about our present...and about getting to a future that fits us. 



I can't really put into words or "review" what this book is all about. It's about being a female, growing (up, old, inward, outward)  life, and the crap that happens to us when we are asking "why" all the time. Come to think of it, there's also a lot mixed in about what happens when we stop asking "why" and just LIVE.

What other reason do you need to read it? 




Comments

  1. Great review! I think I'll check this book out, I like the sound of it actually.

    www.internetlyaddicted.blogspot.co.uk

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  2. I've fancied reading this book since it came out and this is the first more thorough review of it so thank you for that! I'm so excited to pick it up next time I'm in a book store.
    Rhea
    xx
    www.rheaphoebe.blogspot.co.uk

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  3. Great review. I've been on the fence about reading it (even though I adore Lena), but I think you pushed me to adding it to my to-read list.

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  4. I've only heard good things about this book, i feel like i'm the only one who havent read it already
    Brilliant review

    www.RainyAllie.com

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  5. Great review! I usually end up disappointed with celebrity memoirs, but I loved the writing (and the messages) in the quotes you included.

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  6. I've bought this the other day, it's sat on my shelf and I'm desperate to pick it up but I'm trying to force myself to finish the second Game of Thrones book first.

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  7. I still didn't love it. I think this is the first time we've disagreed on a book! I definitely felt the last section was better than the beginning ones and you added some of her great quotes, but they were few and far between for me. I still love her and think she's smart and funny, I just wanted to know more about her adult life, her career, and how she pushes the envelope, and less about her childhood and weird sexual encounters. Ha!

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  8. This is on my reading list, I'm very curious to read it and your review just made me want to read it more!

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  9. Sounds wonderful! I think this is going on my list of things to read. Might have to do an amazon book spree this weekend.

    littlekaatie.blogspot.co.uk

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